Saturday, December 27, 2008

Win Your Ex Back - 3 Steps That Work

By Millard Scott

Want to win your ex back? There is a right way and a wrong way to go about this. If you use a proven strategy you will be on the right track. Here you will find 3 tips that have been proven to increase the chances of getting back your ex.

If you allow your emotions to dictate your moves to win your ex back you will usually take the wrong steps, although those steps may feel right at the time. You will need to do what is counterintuitive, or contrary to what your emotions tell you to do in order to have the best chance to get back your ex.

You must use your brain instead of your heart felt emotions to make the right decisions here. When your emotions tell you to call your ex, you must stay cool instead. You may feel a strong compulsion to call and just pour out your heart, but put a lid on it and think it through instead. Actions based on strong emotions will usually just drive your ex away instead of attracting them back.

What follows are 3 counterintuitive steps that you can use to win your ex back. I caution you that they may not feel right to you at first glance, but these steps have been proven time and again to be the best moves to take in this emotionally charged situation.

Step 1 - Start with the Agreement

The very first step you need to take is to agree with your ex and accept the breakup. You need to tell your ex that you have accepted the breakup and agree that it is the best thing to do at this time. This may not be easy for you to do and chances are you will struggle with this, as your emotions will try to dictate to you.

Agreeing with the break up will allow your ex time to respect and miss you again. Your ex may be upset with you and this will allow some time and space for some mental healing to take place for your ex and for you.

Step 2 - Stop Regular Communications

The next step is to stop regular communications. Now please don't stop reading at this point and just bear with me. Remember that these steps have been proven to be the most effective for your situation. This time off from contact will show your ex that you are serious in your agreement to the breakup. This time will also help your mental well being and allow you to think more clearly. This time period will also allow your ex to start to miss you and get over the reasons that caused the breakup. You are now ready to go right into the next step.

Step 3 - The Reconnection

Your next step is to plan and event or a place where you can reconnect with your ex. You need to be careful with this step though. If you don't plan it out right it can backfire and sabatoge your efforts. To learn more about this step and to discover all of the vital steps you need to be successful , you will need to read the complete plan to win your ex back. - 16759

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