Tuesday, December 30, 2008

How To Win Your Ex Back - Your First Step

By Millard Scott

When that special person in your life decides to break it off with you, it can cause you to hit rock bottom. If this happens you can go 2 ways to try and deal with the problem. You can just panic and do desperate, emotional things to drive your ex off for good, or you can calm down and use a proven strategy to win your ex back.

Emotionally you will be hurting after your break up and this can often cause you to do things out of desperation to win your ex back. This is the time when you really need a proven plan in order to have the very best chance to get your ex back into your life. The things you do out of emotion will tend to be the wrong moves and only serve to push your ex farther away from you.

Do not resort to calling or text messaging your ex constantly to confess to them your undying love. Never call them if you are intoxicated or doing similar useless things. You must keep your cool and not let you emotions dictate your actions. Emotional responses tend to lead you to do the wrong things and only serve to worsen your chances.

You can now plan out your first move with a clear mind. Do not wait to act here because time is your enemy in a break up situation. The sooner your do this the better your chances of having success.

The first thing that you need to do is to agree with your ex about the break up. Tell them that you agree that breaking up is the best thing to do and that you do not have a problem with it. Now, you may not feel right about doing this, but you need to realize that this is a psychological method that has been proven to work very well. It has helped many people in the same situation to get their ex back.

This move works well because by agreeing with the break up and showing strength and calmness your ex will start to see you in a different way. You no longer appear desperate and pathetic, but you will look stronger to them. This works in your favor to actually make you look more attractive to your ex. You look more attractive to them because people are more attracted to things that they find harder to get.

No matter what, you need to stick to your plan. There will be times when you may want to give in to your emotions, but you must stick to this plan to even have a chance to win your ex back. To give up now would just cause you to fail. Resist those conflicting impulses that stem from your emotions.

The method discussed here is only the start of the process to win your ex back. There are more steps that you will need to take in sequence with this opening move in order to get your ex love back into your life. You need to take all of the steps in the plan to have your best chance of success. - 16759

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