Wednesday, December 31, 2008

3 Tips For Getting Back Your Ex

By Millard Scott

About 2 years ago I personally went through a breakup with my girlfriend, and it hurt me like nothing else I have ever experienced before. We both loved each other, but due to the distance between us, and other complications, she decided to break it off with me.

Nothing could have prepared me for the pain and the flood of emotions that I felt at that time. The pain of the breakup caused me to break down and cry like I never had before and I felt so all alone. Sleeping was very difficult and I often woke up with red eyes from lack of proper rest. Perhaps some of this sounds familiar to you if you are going through a break up with the love of your life.

Eventually we reconciled and got back together. The experience allowed our love to grow even stronger the second time around. We both finally realized that the feelings we had for each other made the relationship worth another try.

We were both in love with each other in our relationship before the break up. What you need to keep in mind is, if there is true love involved then reconciliation is always possible between the two of you.

The emotions of the break up can cause you to want to try some desperate things to get your ex back, but you have to think it through before you act. There are certain steps that you can take that will increase the chances of the two of you getting back together. Please don't panic and resort to desperate emotional acts that can drive your ex farther from you.

Here are 3 proven steps that will give you a great chance to get your ex back, be it a girlfriend or a boyfriend:

1. Agree with the break up

By accepting the break up, and telling your ex that you agree, will show your ex that you are strong, and not desperate. This can make you look more attractive to them. This will also give you both some time for calm reflection about the relationship.

2. Stop the frequent communications

After you agree with the break up it is a mistake to continue frequent communications with your ex. This will show them that you are not serious about the agreement and work against your goal. Again, this can drive your ex away from you instead of attracting them back. Stop the text messages and annoying constant phone calls. Give your ex some space, for crying out loud!

3. Make the reconnection after some time.

In about a month, or so, you will want to reconnect with your ex. The first 2 previous steps that you have taken will make this process a lot easier. You need to plan an event or a place where the two of you can meet and have a face to face chat. If you both still love one another this can naturally be rekindled once the reconnection is made.

This article could not cover all of the details of using these proven psychological steps. There is more critical information that you will need to consider in order to have the best chance of getting back with your ex girlfirend, or boyfriend. You will need to use all of the information at your disposal to be successful. - 16759

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