Many girls wonder after a breakup: Is it smart to write my ex boyfriend a letter, to explain my feelings to him?
Regarding "getting a guy back" tactics, I can share a bit of my experience with you. I went through 2 breakups in the past (one after 5 years, and one after 1 and a half) and I usually find it very helpful to write my feelings on paper. The sad part is, if you write your ex boyfriend a letter expressing your inner most thoughts, or how broken you are about the situation, it does not improve the situation.
As you know breakups are happening every day, and there are some common trends in how girls and guys react to them. I am not trying to be negative here - Simple fact is: Guys usually don't respond very well to long, emotional letters from their ex girlfriend.
In a lot of cases though, women tend to send a letter to their ex boyfriend, hoping to get "closure". This is counter-productive.
The best thing to do would be to just write what you feel, for yourself, on a piece of paper. Don't send it, just use it for yourself to get a good overview of your situation.
If you really have to share your feelings, and your girlfriends are not enough, why don't you just post your feelings on a blog or some forum? That way, you will get a lot of advice on how to handle your specific situation, and it will be a lot smarter then sending a letter to your ex boyfriend.
Some honest truth: If you are thinking to send your ex boyfriend a letter to try and get him back.. I think you are making a mistake. There are way better methods of getting a guy back than sending letters.
To wrap it up, I just have this general advice: After a breakup, just try to stay lively and active, go do something with friends, don't isolate yourself. - 16759
Regarding "getting a guy back" tactics, I can share a bit of my experience with you. I went through 2 breakups in the past (one after 5 years, and one after 1 and a half) and I usually find it very helpful to write my feelings on paper. The sad part is, if you write your ex boyfriend a letter expressing your inner most thoughts, or how broken you are about the situation, it does not improve the situation.
As you know breakups are happening every day, and there are some common trends in how girls and guys react to them. I am not trying to be negative here - Simple fact is: Guys usually don't respond very well to long, emotional letters from their ex girlfriend.
In a lot of cases though, women tend to send a letter to their ex boyfriend, hoping to get "closure". This is counter-productive.
The best thing to do would be to just write what you feel, for yourself, on a piece of paper. Don't send it, just use it for yourself to get a good overview of your situation.
If you really have to share your feelings, and your girlfriends are not enough, why don't you just post your feelings on a blog or some forum? That way, you will get a lot of advice on how to handle your specific situation, and it will be a lot smarter then sending a letter to your ex boyfriend.
Some honest truth: If you are thinking to send your ex boyfriend a letter to try and get him back.. I think you are making a mistake. There are way better methods of getting a guy back than sending letters.
To wrap it up, I just have this general advice: After a breakup, just try to stay lively and active, go do something with friends, don't isolate yourself. - 16759
About the Author:
Mariah Tames is a psychology master, who became specialized in relational problems. You can read more of her ideas on getting a guy back on her site, and feel free to leave any comments if you want!
