Extramarital affair is something that anyone can fall into without even realising a thing. Before we begin, I assume no one would choose to be involved in an affair by intention - unless if the person has no morals or conscience.
There are always patterns and signs - the same one over and over again to supposedly show warning signs you're about to be involved. However, these signs are sometimes too easy to be overlooked and therefore many people don't even believe it's there until they're stuck in the emotional rut.
And when you finally realise, getting out will not be an easy task as it involves breaking someone's heart - including yours. So how can you be made aware of the extramarital affair danger? Read on to see the warning signs.
The first stage of an affair is a friendly one. Someone become friends with someone else other than their spouse because of similar interests or hobby. This can happen anywhere including the workplace or social groups you belong to. At this stage attraction may or may not yet exist and therefore is probably still harmless.
The friendship formed will then become closer - the very beginning of emotional affair is here. More stories are being swapped between you and your friend - including the more intimate stories about your current relationship with your spouse.
Now before we go any further, realise that a close friend - no matter how close is not your spouse. I can bet again that this friend has not had a chance to show most of his/her bad habits and behaviour; and to be honest you know this person mostly based on his/her words rather than action.
He or she may give you personal opinions offering resolutions to your problems - mind you these resolution sounds good to your ear.
Before you even realise you'll start comparing your spouse with your friend - and you're starting to enter a dangerous zone. You may already be involved in some kind of emotional affair to some degree. But of course, there should be some conscience left still to stop you from crossing the extramarital affair line as yet.
The last stage of this 'dangerous zone' is when you start sharing deep emotional heart-to-heart stuff. This definitely leads to a deeper emotional affair where you start feeling understood, feeling close to the other person. You will feel loved and starting from there, you may start wondering what it would be like to have a spouse just like this friend of yours.
Logic and conscience start flying out the window, being replaced by the feeling of 'maybe there IS such a thing as the perfect soul mate in this life'. Add this to an excitement that an affair can offer and you will VERY soon begin your extramarital affair journey.
Before long you may find yourself in a situation - or you create the situation that makes it so easy for somebody to cross the physical line with a kiss or any other sexual touch. You may even end up in bed with this person - and worse of all, it is not just a one-night-stand as high emotional intimacy is involved.
You cannot get out...
No, you can! Now I can tell you that extramarital affairs do NOT just naturally happen without any signs. You can choose to see them, or choose to overlook those signs - by trying to convince yourself that nothing is going on between you and your friend. You have control from the start and knowing these signs will arm you with logic to stop you from getting too deep into the affair.
One thing to remember, everyone is vulnerable when it comes to emotion and many people overestimate themselves. Accept that you are just as vulnerable to this and don't start saying that 'it will never happen me and my friend' as you don't know what your emotions are capable of.
Pay attention, and be aware of boundaries. - 16759
There are always patterns and signs - the same one over and over again to supposedly show warning signs you're about to be involved. However, these signs are sometimes too easy to be overlooked and therefore many people don't even believe it's there until they're stuck in the emotional rut.
And when you finally realise, getting out will not be an easy task as it involves breaking someone's heart - including yours. So how can you be made aware of the extramarital affair danger? Read on to see the warning signs.
The first stage of an affair is a friendly one. Someone become friends with someone else other than their spouse because of similar interests or hobby. This can happen anywhere including the workplace or social groups you belong to. At this stage attraction may or may not yet exist and therefore is probably still harmless.
The friendship formed will then become closer - the very beginning of emotional affair is here. More stories are being swapped between you and your friend - including the more intimate stories about your current relationship with your spouse.
Now before we go any further, realise that a close friend - no matter how close is not your spouse. I can bet again that this friend has not had a chance to show most of his/her bad habits and behaviour; and to be honest you know this person mostly based on his/her words rather than action.
He or she may give you personal opinions offering resolutions to your problems - mind you these resolution sounds good to your ear.
Before you even realise you'll start comparing your spouse with your friend - and you're starting to enter a dangerous zone. You may already be involved in some kind of emotional affair to some degree. But of course, there should be some conscience left still to stop you from crossing the extramarital affair line as yet.
The last stage of this 'dangerous zone' is when you start sharing deep emotional heart-to-heart stuff. This definitely leads to a deeper emotional affair where you start feeling understood, feeling close to the other person. You will feel loved and starting from there, you may start wondering what it would be like to have a spouse just like this friend of yours.
Logic and conscience start flying out the window, being replaced by the feeling of 'maybe there IS such a thing as the perfect soul mate in this life'. Add this to an excitement that an affair can offer and you will VERY soon begin your extramarital affair journey.
Before long you may find yourself in a situation - or you create the situation that makes it so easy for somebody to cross the physical line with a kiss or any other sexual touch. You may even end up in bed with this person - and worse of all, it is not just a one-night-stand as high emotional intimacy is involved.
You cannot get out...
No, you can! Now I can tell you that extramarital affairs do NOT just naturally happen without any signs. You can choose to see them, or choose to overlook those signs - by trying to convince yourself that nothing is going on between you and your friend. You have control from the start and knowing these signs will arm you with logic to stop you from getting too deep into the affair.
One thing to remember, everyone is vulnerable when it comes to emotion and many people overestimate themselves. Accept that you are just as vulnerable to this and don't start saying that 'it will never happen me and my friend' as you don't know what your emotions are capable of.
Pay attention, and be aware of boundaries. - 16759
About the Author:
Sally Webb is the Editor of Cheating-Spouse-Alert.com. Visit her site for more advice on topics of infidelity and affairs from signs of cheating spouse to ways of catching them. Furthermore, See the article: Extramarital Affair: should I confess to my spouse.
