A break-up is never an easy thing to survive, no matter which side you're on. It's doubly difficult if your boyfriend has dumped you. You might find yourself wondering why he's broken up with you: Is he tired of you? Has he met someone he finds more interesting? Or is he confused?
Guys break up for many reasons but here are some tips to help you get your ex boyfriend back and save your relationship.
Staying Calm.
First, don't act like a fool when he breaks up with you, acting desperate just fuels their ego. Bite your tongue and go along with it, as difficult as it may be. You may even suggest that you were thinking of breaking up yourself, this will throw him off guard.
Men tend to want most what they can't have so turning the tables on him could just make him rethink the breakup. Regardless of what happens, after the initial breakup give yourself time to think about things. Do I really want him back? Is he good for me? Will he do this again?
If you are convinced about wanting him back, then remember that strategy is the key, not desperate behavior. Regard the situation carefully before formulating your plans and put things into a proper perspective instead of being overtly emotional about it.
Reaching out.
Send him a short letter saying that you understand and respect his decision and you think some time apart may be good for you. Keep your emotions in check, be straight to the point, and don't get emotional. Let him know that you are available to talk if he wants to but let him contact you, just put a phone number or email address in the letter and leave it at that.
It would be foolish for you to expect that he will come running to you, or any such immediate results. Do not check you mailbox regularly, realize the amount of free time you have at hand, and use it for pampering yourself. If he calls you sometime, do not receive the call hastily, giving the impression that you have been waiting for his call.
On the other hand, if the guy continues ignoring your presence- it might be that he is thinking over things properly. Give him the time he requires instead of butting in. The reason for break-up was perhaps the need for some space. Respect that decision of his and give him the time he needs.
Enjoy your life.
Don't spend your time fretting or worrying about getting dumped. Go out and have some fun instead. Don't worry too much about getting him back, if he wants to be with you, he will come back. Who knows? If he sees you having a good time, it might just make him want to be a part of your life.
If he knows you are out doing your thing and not worrying about him, you are leaving him behind in a sense, and remember guys want what they can't have so get on with your life and if he wants to be a part of it, he will let you know. If he doesn't come back, then you haven't wasted months pining over him and you have gotten on with your life. - 16759
Guys break up for many reasons but here are some tips to help you get your ex boyfriend back and save your relationship.
Staying Calm.
First, don't act like a fool when he breaks up with you, acting desperate just fuels their ego. Bite your tongue and go along with it, as difficult as it may be. You may even suggest that you were thinking of breaking up yourself, this will throw him off guard.
Men tend to want most what they can't have so turning the tables on him could just make him rethink the breakup. Regardless of what happens, after the initial breakup give yourself time to think about things. Do I really want him back? Is he good for me? Will he do this again?
If you are convinced about wanting him back, then remember that strategy is the key, not desperate behavior. Regard the situation carefully before formulating your plans and put things into a proper perspective instead of being overtly emotional about it.
Reaching out.
Send him a short letter saying that you understand and respect his decision and you think some time apart may be good for you. Keep your emotions in check, be straight to the point, and don't get emotional. Let him know that you are available to talk if he wants to but let him contact you, just put a phone number or email address in the letter and leave it at that.
It would be foolish for you to expect that he will come running to you, or any such immediate results. Do not check you mailbox regularly, realize the amount of free time you have at hand, and use it for pampering yourself. If he calls you sometime, do not receive the call hastily, giving the impression that you have been waiting for his call.
On the other hand, if the guy continues ignoring your presence- it might be that he is thinking over things properly. Give him the time he requires instead of butting in. The reason for break-up was perhaps the need for some space. Respect that decision of his and give him the time he needs.
Enjoy your life.
Don't spend your time fretting or worrying about getting dumped. Go out and have some fun instead. Don't worry too much about getting him back, if he wants to be with you, he will come back. Who knows? If he sees you having a good time, it might just make him want to be a part of your life.
If he knows you are out doing your thing and not worrying about him, you are leaving him behind in a sense, and remember guys want what they can't have so get on with your life and if he wants to be a part of it, he will let you know. If he doesn't come back, then you haven't wasted months pining over him and you have gotten on with your life. - 16759
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