When text messaging keep in mind that, just like in face to face encounters with a woman, there are rules to know and follow.
Rule 1: SMS is not the answer to escape a phone call
Some guys think texting is safer than giving a girl a real call. It makes sense, but do not fall in that category. When you get a phone number, the next thing to do is figure out when you can both meet again. You will find more success making plans over the phone with your voice than with letters and emoticons.
If you text because you're scared to talk to her, how will you ever speak to her in person?
Rule 2: Never expect replies of validation
Remove value seeking texts like, "What up?" or "What are your plans this afternoon?" Texts like this scream neediness, make you less attractive to women, and do not help spotlight your fun characteristics.
Take a look at some sample texts that are have been repetitively tested and proven effective...
"I just saw a guy wearing a fanny pack and it reminded me of you"
"Hey dork! :) I bet you are operating at a level of 100% dorkiness today."
Rule 3: Avoid sending too many messages!
You've got a huge kindergarten crush on her, but don't show too much interest too fast or you will scare her off. Text one time and if she responds, do the same. However, if there is no response, wait for the next day before contacting her.
Also, give it some time after you receive a text before you respond. Remember being non-needy always equals sexy because it conveys that you must have other dating options in your life.
When in doubt, pace her. If she texts you back right away, you can text her back right away, but if she takes 10 minutes, then so should you.
Bonus Texting Tip: Use texts to invoke the law of familiarity.
After getting her number, immediately send a text while you're still standing right next to her. This situation by itself is humorous and if you send a funny message it's doubly so. Try messages like...
"You have my number now but you are only allowed to call me once per day."
"Who is that really hot guy standing next to you?"
Once she saves your number, you can be confident she is interested. But even more important, when you call later, she will have your number and caller id appear. There is even more chance for her to pick up the phone to a recognized number. - 16759
Rule 1: SMS is not the answer to escape a phone call
Some guys think texting is safer than giving a girl a real call. It makes sense, but do not fall in that category. When you get a phone number, the next thing to do is figure out when you can both meet again. You will find more success making plans over the phone with your voice than with letters and emoticons.
If you text because you're scared to talk to her, how will you ever speak to her in person?
Rule 2: Never expect replies of validation
Remove value seeking texts like, "What up?" or "What are your plans this afternoon?" Texts like this scream neediness, make you less attractive to women, and do not help spotlight your fun characteristics.
Take a look at some sample texts that are have been repetitively tested and proven effective...
"I just saw a guy wearing a fanny pack and it reminded me of you"
"Hey dork! :) I bet you are operating at a level of 100% dorkiness today."
Rule 3: Avoid sending too many messages!
You've got a huge kindergarten crush on her, but don't show too much interest too fast or you will scare her off. Text one time and if she responds, do the same. However, if there is no response, wait for the next day before contacting her.
Also, give it some time after you receive a text before you respond. Remember being non-needy always equals sexy because it conveys that you must have other dating options in your life.
When in doubt, pace her. If she texts you back right away, you can text her back right away, but if she takes 10 minutes, then so should you.
Bonus Texting Tip: Use texts to invoke the law of familiarity.
After getting her number, immediately send a text while you're still standing right next to her. This situation by itself is humorous and if you send a funny message it's doubly so. Try messages like...
"You have my number now but you are only allowed to call me once per day."
"Who is that really hot guy standing next to you?"
Once she saves your number, you can be confident she is interested. But even more important, when you call later, she will have your number and caller id appear. There is even more chance for her to pick up the phone to a recognized number. - 16759
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